Have you ever been cheated on before?
A couple of days before Valentines Day 2014 a package arrived in the post, and my then boyfriend /baby daddy of 15years (yes I know 15 fucking years of putting up) had already told me that Valentines was going to be tricky he wasn’t going to get me anything until month end. I put the package away and when he got home he didn’t open it. I didn’t think anything by it until the night before Valentines Day I was getting ready to go to my little sisters baby shower. Suddenly it hit me that that package had been moved from where it was but I never got to know what was in it. I panicked and something told me to look for it.
There had been a lot of inexplicable events prior, one being him saying he had a gym session with a work mate but came back home after 3am… said they decided to go for a drink after gym🙄. I let it slide because it made no sense. The other inexplicable thing was, I had found messages on his phone from a girl who happened to be his best friend’s ex-girlfriend. Most of the history was gone but the trail was cosy, to say the least. My intuition kicked in even harder. Until this package, everything flashed in front of me even the senseless stuff. I looked high and low for the package and hoped to find it. After searching for a while I found it… it was opened, in it was a pink iPhone case with a power bank attached to it. Those days that was a pretty handy gift. Obviously, it wasn’t mine because pink is not my colour at all and he knew it.
I asked him he said it was for me he meant to give it to me at some point but I didn’t buy his story. I went to my sisters baby shower and he wasn’t expecting me back the same day. I drove back with my kids on a cold night because my intuition had kicked in really hard. Upon arrival I left the kids in the car, tried to open the door but my key wouldn’t go in, it was locked from the inside… he was home I started knocking the door then banged the door but no answer. I called him several times but no answer. The telly was on so clearly I was being ignored. Then suddenly I heard voices whispering behind the door, at this point my son had joined me wondering why we hadn’t managed to get in the house. Remember it was a freezing night. I said “I know you are in there open the door… “
The door slowly opened and there were him and his best friend’s ex… he is shielding her because he didn’t want anyone to get hurt he said. I just wanted them out of the house… he walked off with her and I stood there with my son and he came back and said to me “this is over”… I said, “thank you”. In hindsight, a part of me thinks I should have beaten her up because she knew me… yet she looked at me and said she didn’t know about me🤯
Was sure that we were done but with a baby barely a year old my confidence was rock bottom. I was lost and I was afraid of how I was going to do it without help. Before I could figure any of it out he was calling me and begging to come home. I somehow felt better that he reached out quickly but that may have been the sorriest thing anyone can ever find consolation from… the biggest regret is ever. Bearing in mind he had cheated on me multiple times including the both times during my pregnancies. But this time how did I get away from his sorry a**?
If you have ever had a horrid experience of infidelity please comment below or share how you would have reacted in a situation like this to help others who may find themselves in a similar situation 😒
To be continued
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